Essentially every person on this earth is alone. To be an individual is to be divided from all other creatures in some irreconcilable way. People also find themselves helpless and weak when faced with a world that is bigger than they ever can be. So they think up very clever ways of either denying their individuality, or self-asserting in a move to find safety from fear of emptyness. Relationships are a way of denying individuality. The problem arises that others also seek safety from themselves, so they seek those that have asserted themselves to begin relationships with. People who have asserted themselves depend on the concept that independence is desirable for happiness, and so they do not actually desire a relationship. And those who seek to lose individuality and meld with others are not desired, because they are dependent. Relationships are paradoxical in that people who will enter into them have two incompatible desires, for independence and deindividualization, and usually the importance is not on equal ground so both members are unfulfilled. The essential problem is that both paths to sanctity are selfish in nature, and are not motivated by other's needs. Because we are individuals we are unable to overcome this barrier; although we can feel empathy we will never escape the immediate needs of our own existence. The solution is to take heavy sedatives and watch TV.